• “This book and the www.internet-of-the-mind.com website helped me to understand and deal with relationship problems,addictive behavior and anxiety.These behavior patterns were rooted in being raised in an ineffective family unit. The excellence of Don Carter’s books lies in practical step-by-step uncovering of problems of the past…”

    - Graham W.
  • “As a therapist and coach who uses transactional analysis with my own clients, I’m always glad to see books written for the general public that apply this particular way of understanding human behavior and interactions…”

    - Deah Curry, Ph.D
  • “I’m about a quarter of the way into the book and already with the first two exercises I’ve gained great insight into myself. I can see where this is going in a lot of aspects and am unsure what the next step is at the same time I know it’s a step forward. This in my opinion is a great read…“

    - Portia M

Chapter Excerpts

  • Introduction

    The Thawing the Iceberg Series evolved over 30 years of clinical practice by the author, Don Carter, MSW, LCSW....

  • Chapter One

    Comedian Bill Cosby has often observed that one of a child’s most frequent answers to questions posed by their...

  • Chapter Two

    Children who get their dependency needs met fully on a regular basis will thrive, flourish, and grow at a...

  • Chapter Three

    In order for children to survive the pain of their wounds they must learn to live outside themselves; i.e.,...

  • Chapter Four

    The False Self poses as our private self and the Invented Self as our public self, but both are...

  • Chapter Five

     Unmet childhood dependency needs cause emotional wounds to develop in a child. By “dependency” needs, we mean those critical...

  • Chapter Six

     As described in the first two chapters, fear of abandonment is almost always a direct result of feeling or...

  • Chapter Seven

    Exercise: Think about times in your life when you’ve been triggered into a scripty behavior or episode of abandonment,...

  • Chapter Eight

    This work is about becoming an integrated, whole, mature, adult person in action, in the way we live our...

  • Chapter Nine

    A daily journal is not only an ideal way of accomplishing the two Reparenting objectives above, but it also...

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Don Carter, MSW, LCSW

Don Carter, MSW, LCSW has been a therapist for nearly thirty years throughout which time he has been used at several mental wellness firms around Mid-Missouri. He has held positions from entry level to supervisor of a chemical dependency program at a large hospital. Don’s main specialty areas include addictions, codependency, mood disorders, PTSD, and Adult/Child Syndrome.

The middle of 7 children, Don grew up on a farm with hard-working parents who had their own issues from youth. The farm work lead to a scholarship to play football at the University of Missouri at Columbia in 1977-79. He followed that with a brief stint with the New Orleans Saints in 1980. That experience was interrupted by a developing problem with alcohol and drugs. A series of childhood tragedies and bouts with addictions lead Don to his first encounter with the mental wellness system when he entered an inpatient therapy program at 29 years of age.

Don found treatment and recovery such an exceptionally gratifying experience that he went back to school, finished 2 degrees, ended up being a licensed therapist who devoted himself to helping others find their way out too. The Iceberg Model in his bestselling “Thawing the Iceberg Series” was a product of the years that followed. Don connects much of the success of that series to his relationship with God. “I truly feel I am living the strategy He has for my life and carrying a message He desires me to carry.”



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